Wednesday, February 19, 2014

Learned to Love the Bomb (August 25th, 2013)

I think that, every single day, I thank God, or whomever one would give gratitude to if one is at all spiritual or religious, that I am bipolar. Honestly, I don't believe that God has a direct hand in the going ons of the universe ninety-nine-point-nine-repeating percent of the time, but I do believe that - at any time - He could intervene... yet He didn't. He didn't keep me from developing bipolar, nor did He 'cure' me of it. It is His inaction that I am grateful for - or, at least... what I presume to be His inaction. If bipolar was the result of negative karma, like some kind of atonement, then I am overjoyed. I have enough guilt to fill a lifetime already, whether truly justified or not, and bipolar just... feels right as my path of atonement. But all must atone, their entire lives, as no one is purely good. If you are born, you are almost inevitably forced to atone (perhaps the only exception being things like stillborn babies, or children who die at extremely young ages.) I don't believe in the infallible and absolute innocence of children, in all honesty, and believe that some children can be conniving mongrels. So all, in their own way, must atone, though whether or not they ever do is purely up to them. That's the beauty (and horror) of free will.

So, why am I so grateful for my bipolar? Well... not an easy question to answer, even if I asked it, myself. I guess that, in the simplest and most concise way, I can say that bipolar made me who I am, and I'm glad that I didn't turn out differently. I'm also glad that the future is uncertain and so I have multiple paths to end up potentially someone entirely different - just hopefully for the better. Some see life as extremely linear - walking a straight line from beginning to end until you die. I don't see it that way... Think Schrödinger's Cat, but not necessarily with the certainty or belief that each possibility exists simultaneously in innumerable different worlds which each contain one of those innumerable possibilities. I do believe that the end result of all things is inevitable and already determined in some sense, but that free will allows us to determine our futures in the moment. It's somewhat paradoxical, and perhaps a little nonsensical to some or most, but it's what I believe. We make ourselves who we become, yet all time is, has, and will exist, meaning that all things have been done, thus determined. If one could warp to the future, I believe that they couldn't alter it, nor could the knowledge of that future alter the future. The future was already determined by all those who've lived from the done of time until that moment in the future, even if we currently exist before it. The past would be the same. Already determined, meaning we couldn't change the past or alter the present, and thusly the future. It's all inevitable, and yet we determine each detail.

I also like bipolar because I believe that, without it, I could never think of this kind of trippy crap. Bipolar is a drug that you don't take... you just have it. It exists within you, is made within you, and is a part of you. Highs that can whirl out of control or create pure euphoria, as well as the lows that can drive one mad, or strengthen the soul to be more enduring. All drugs have a price, all individuals a different opinion of those drugs, and all users different experiences using the drug. Bipolar's no different. Yes, some days it's unbearable and I just want to scream in agony, while others I'm so high off of myself that I couldn't have a care in the world. I can be paranoid and neurotic, or careless and overjoyed. Much of the time, I like the feeling that I don't have to be other people, or even try drugs, to have a strong sense of what it would be like if I did or could. Sure, drugs can more easily be taken at will and produce a certain effect almost immediately, while bipolar does what it wants when it wants. Sure, people reinvent themselves all the time, even changing their gender if they so wish, but my personality can shift so much that I don't feel I really need to reinvent myself. Certainly, some things are more persistent and need to be more willingly changed, but some things are more... plastic than others. Some things change on their own or quite easily, while others need to be changed by effort and willpower. Days long ago, I couldn't handle this vast differences in myself, and partitioned them as if separate people entirely, but I think I'm learning to embrace and incorporate all those differences into one body and one mind.

Without bipolar, I don't think that I would intellectually and spiritually embrace life like I do, despite the fact that I hardly ever embrace it physically, anymore (that's anxiety-related, though, not directly bipolar.) I don't think that I would see the world anything like I do now... It would probably be... logical, simple, and structured. I used to be incredibly quiet, very attentive, very logical... I do sometimes dwell and reminisce about those days of simplicity, but since when did simplicity really get anyone anywhere? And I am speaking relatively, here. Sure, without bipolar, I'd probably be drastically more successful in a social way, but sometimes I wonder if I would've been dead in a spiritual way. So called 'dead inside.' Sometimes, it seems like those deemed 'mentally healthy' are the most unhealthy. They thrive in the physical world, but frequently die in the spiritual and philosophical worlds. I believe that sociopaths are a perfect example of this... I am holding less and less against sociopaths, nowadays, but I do still see them as hollow, empty voids, conditioned only to prosper in this finite, mind-numbingly concrete world. Society was seemingly made for them, and yet those who constitute most of society tend to fear them. Why be such a proponent of something you fear? I'm holding less and less appreciation for the humans' world, of society, of economies and governments, of such confining man-made structures. We often complain when something is 'too much,' and yet humans almost without exception constantly add more to the monstrously vast social dynamics and physical creations. And as time goes on, as overall safety is more and more greatly assured, as we build walls and hold off threats by gun and missile, as we create medical treatments that fight off previously lethal illnesses and prolong lives, as we become more constructed and powerful as a species... something in us gets smaller and smaller and smaller... until it's nearly impossible to see. This little... glimmer. It fades just a little more each generation, each millennium... perhaps never fully disappearing (halving? since halving a value infinitely could never yield a complete and pure zero.)

But individuals pop up from time to time... They marginally revive this glimmer, breathing more life into the world. They're spiritually attuned and entuned (whether they know it or not.) Human existence, in the end, is like a vast network of speculation... Human life is like seeing a plane blow up in the sky, causing everyone to conjure up any possible explanation for such an incidence. But... for some reason, we rarely, or seemingly never, get to the next part... At least... not in this life. We never get to the part where the facts are laid out, proven infallible, and agreed on by at least the majority, perhaps with a handful of outliers. We're stuck in the speculative stage of guessing and assuming. But I do commend one particular quality of note... I commend those who can accept that the answers will be presented to them in due time, should the be presented to them at all, and try to simply await that time while moving on with the rest of their lives. I think that all who can do this act of self-restrain learn to do it at varying times relative to one another, at their own pace. It is true that... in life, things won't come to fruition, or simply in your life, if you do not seek them or take action, and yet I believe that things will happen when they happen. Do not stand idle, but do not necessarily expect to find what you're looking for. Seek with the notion that you might end up with something entirely different. What is the lyric? You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes you might find, you get what you need, is it? Rings true with me. Each moment is a stepping stone to the next. However, their are many stepping stones after each stepping stone, and it's you're choice which to jump to. I think bipolar brought about more, new stepping stones for me... perhaps at the price of ones that may not have been 'meant to be.'


Final Note: Yes, the title is intended to be sarcastic, and somewhat ironic. However, I figured that bipolar is often like a ticking time bomb that goes off.. and then magically regenerates into another bomb that inevitably blows, in a continuous, endless cycle of explosions.

Obsession (August 19th, 2013)

It's been... oh, maybe a little over a week, or about a week, since I ran out of my Wellbutrin (atypical antidepressant/mild stimulant) and gabapentin (anticonvulsant used to treat neuropathic pain, and has very mild anxiolytic effects.) Now, I got my refills... err... technically last night. Took my first doses since I've been off them. Well, every time I go off of a med, it seems that I am reminded of just how much I need it. Admittedly, the situation was a bit different with my other two bipolar meds (Seroquel and Lamictal), as I safely tapered off those and have been doing somewhat better than expected for the past several months (about half a year, now!) Now, running out and having either one of those cut off (not on purpose, or completely willingly) often caused withdrawal in the past, which also caused bipolar symptoms to suddenly and uncontrollably erupt. But I was extremely cautious and careful about tapering off so I didn't really have to deal with any of that. Sure, moods have been more erratic and much stronger since getting off my primary bipolar meds, but it hasn't been anything I couldn't handle, yet, so I'd say I'm doing fairly well.

Anyway... 7, 8, maybe 9 days off Wellbutrin and gabapentin, and things went south - fast. The Wellbutrin typically kept my mood a little higher, and sometimes even slightly contributed to increased incidences of hypomania and mania, but in its absence, I easily fell into a depression that only slightly lifted before slipping back down, over and over for almost every one of those days. Being an offshoot of stimulants (notice the 'amphetamine' in its scientific name: 3-chloro-N-tert-butyl-β-ketoamphetamine), I've also noticed the Wellbutrin help with my symptoms of ADHD and OCD. My gabapentin helped keep my fibromyalgia symptoms in check, and, both to a lesser direct degree and more strongly indirectly, my anxieties. Well, off them both, my anxieties began skyrocketing, I fell into the aforementioned depressive slumps, I had pain all over almost nonstop, I've been extremely lethargic and unmotivated, I've been getting hot flashes (fibro symptoms), chills - also fibro, agitation, irritability, sudden and unpredictable shifts in mood, intense obsessions and compulsions, as well as both obsessive and compulsive (or obsessive-compulsive) behaviors, my attention has been extremely scattered, getting distracted like a dog seeing a squirrel or trying to chase a ball that his owner didn't really throw, having anguish over certain phobias, and a myriad of other things here and there. It's been agonising.

The thought of going outside? Hasn't crossed my mind once.. Normally, I at least get daydreams about just being able to go outside and do something, but it's been out of the question to even think about it. I can barely sleep at night because of my arachnophobia (fear of spiders), and find it easier to sleep during the day since they're nocturnal creatures, and I could see them coming more easily if needed. I've been obsessing about all kinds of things. My OCD really kicked in when I offered my brother a taste for a drink I concocted. First, he grabbed a straw, and I thought it was alright, but then I shoved the straw away and adamantly insisted on putting a little bit in the cup. Instead of apparently wasting a cup, he just swiped the straw and made a little slurp. According to him, he was sucking even after taking the straw out in order not to let saliva flow back into the drink, but it was far, far too chancy for me. He then placed his palm atop my hamburger bun for some kind of joke that I forget now, much to my frustration. I went down stairs, tore the top off the bun off - any part that I could conceive his hand having touched - and fought with myself over bearing to drink the other 15 or so ounces of the drink I made after he used a straw.

This all sounds utterly ridiculous, I know. He used a straw? What's the problem, then? I can imagine so many thinking. Or, What, he just touched the top of your hamburger bun? So? Well, OCD isn't exactly rational... And, my brother being the overly mentally healthy, average guy that he is, couldn't see any harm in anything he'd done. I sat there for upwards of thirty minutes trying to convince myself that I should and could just drink that drink instead of pouring it all down the drain like I told my brother I was considering doing. Oy, vey, I gave him a bit of a verbal lashing just for using a straw. And then he said he didn't even like the drink... It used expensive coffee grounds, a decent amount of milk, and throwing it down the drain would be like throwing cash down the drain - cash that was already invested! My brother came to that same rationale, and even argued with me, implying that he would take offense since he's pretty much the only one with a job and bringing in money directly. And it's so stupid because I'm nearly brought to tears just replaying all this - and it was just a stupid drink with maybe a microlitre of saliva wash-back! For anyone who doesn't know what a microlitre is, it's 1/1,000,000 of a litre, or 1/1000 of a millilitre. Essentially, it's about nothing. Well, after arduous, actually painful, contemplation, I finally figured out how I could bear drinking it... I poured in some chocolate vodka. Made the taste a bit.. strange, but it put my overactive mind at ease... and I got through the whole drink without having to pour it down the drain! No wasted coffee grounds or milk, let alone chocolate syrup. And I managed to get over eating my sandwich by just peeling off the top layer of bun... But the ridiculously stupid agony that I had to go through for such trivial matters! It was absurd and idiotic. But it didn't matter. I was compelled, if not forced by my own mind to go through such asinine trials...

I've also been obsessively researching with virtually no attention span, jumping from one article to the next, researching all kinds of miscellaneous, almost pointless crap. I was sure I would get to be before 2:00 a.m. today... Well, I watched a two hour movie and took a shower... by that time, it was almost 3:00. I then got myself some tea and took my meds, in hopes to relax. I then remembered that my blanket was downstairs, so I went to get it. In the process of getting my blanket, I found myself sitting in front of the computer. "Oh! I need to check my e-mail to see if ______ replied!" Seemed harmless enough. Well, I did so, there was no reply, but there was a newsletter pertaining to bipolar from PsychCentral (I get them regularly.) Well, before I know it, I spent almost an hour reading articles and joined a website that helps track bipolar moods, sleep, and meds... I finally went up with my blanket, immediately having my mom ask why I'm not asleep yet. This was the second or third time already that she asked, so I just opted not to answer, and continued drinking the tea that I had left upstairs about an hour ago. After finishing the tea, my mom figures she'll use my being up as an opportunity to get an hour or so of sleep before having to take my brother to work. So, I stay up, watch a show until that hour is up, wake my mom up, and eat a can of tuna... with a wide assortment of seasonings, as I can never seem to leave certain things alone when seasonings are available! (By the way, I used 6 different kinds of bottled seasoning... for a can of tuna... at 5:15 a.m.) I then saw that there was a show on sleep disorders. Both ironic and fitting! So I stayed up and watched that... 6:00 a.m. Then I went down the stairs, blanket in hand, and stopped at the bottom of the stairs... Turn right, I go to my room... turn left, I go to the computer... After about 30 seconds, I turned left. I got on here, started researching, then writing this, then researching, then writing more of this, until I am where I am, now... 7:28 a.m. Fuck!

I have an appointment... today... at 12:00... A few hours of sleep? Maybe? Hopefully?

I take in a deep breath, close my eyes, and breath out... Yeah, I need to sleep.

Social Constructs, Logic, and Irrationality (August 7th, 2013)

I find it particularly interesting when someone says, "You're being irrational," as they are being irrational by conveying the other person's irrationality, especially when on a very social level. 'Irrational' isn't always bad, and much of the 'right-brain' is irrational. Irrational simply means not solid, simplistic, and logical. While, certainly, it can mean that the person is detached from any sort of reasoning, it can mean that they're behaving abstractly. Abstractions are made on a regular basis by the human mind and are required for society and social constructs to exist. While neither society nor social constructs are themselves rational and logical, but are rather irrational and abstract, both can be rationalised in various ways. The brain has two hemispheres that regularly communicate with one another, constantly transforming logic into ideas, and abstractions into rationales. While it has been discovered that humans can survive and adapt with only one half of the brain - one hemisphere - while the brain remains whole, there is rigorous and constant translation and conversion of logic into concepts, and vice versa, between those hemispheres.

No one part of the brain is purely abstract or purely concrete, however. Then again, virtually nothing in the world is purely abstract or concrete so long as one's consciousness exists. Remove consciousness and simply let the physical world exist, and you have only concrete things. Much of what is abstract is based purely on perceptions, and the entirety of one's mind is abstract. Even when doing mathematics, the mind is relying on both logical and abstract processes, as the symbols which represent numbers and various functions are themselves abstract creations, as well as fairly arbitrary. So, any time that you see a math equation, you are looking at something abstract representing something logical. However, on the other hand, if you actually had seven oranges, and then pushed five apples in with the bunch of oranges, then you would have a total of 13 fruits - that's apparent and obvious. But the very letters and words used to convey that idea, and the idea itself (being hypothetical) is abstract.

Even the ideas of 'abstract' and 'logical' are abstract, because they're ideas, and ideas aren't tangible. This makes religion irrational and abstract, as well, though that certainly does not make it unreal, as the effects are observable and apparent. Once something begins to have effects, it becomes real in some sense, thus rational in some sense. The only things that are utterly unreal, lacking effects and lacking some kind of rational basis are those things which do not exist and have never even been thought of before. Some argue that there are numbers that don't exist, yet they've been conceptualised, brought into consciousness, and thus exist in some indirect and abstract way, making the idea of them real. Even then, the actual (or hypothetical) numbers aren't truly observable, nor are they truly fathomable, making them have no real, logical basis. It is the idea of them that is observable, fathomable, and has a real, logical basis. The ironic thing is how the idea is built from truly real things, not exactly the thing it is meant to represent.

Social constructs are artificial, but real, irrational, but can be rationalised, arbitrary, but have meaningful effects and purposes. Social constructs can be observed, made at least partly tangible, and do require extensive use of the right hemisphere, yet are abstract, conceptual, often intangible, and also require extensive use of the left hemisphere. What makes social constructs so infuriating for many is how they are arbitrary and nearly impossible to universally and accurately understand, as one must deal with other, separate entities with free-will, and who can just as easily conform to such constructs as not conform. Social constructs depend on the statistical baselines of societies as wholes, while somewhat neglecting humans as individuals. No individual's actions are reliable, nor truly predictable, yet averages and predictions of humanity as a whole, singular entity can much more accurately and reliably be made. In this sense, social constructs pay very little attention to any one individual, but pays extreme attention to the masses. This in a way devalues the singular while valuing the whole. Individuals like myself, who both have trouble understanding and conforming to social constructs, as well as value the singular individuals highly, and the whole somewhat less, can have serious personal issues with social constructions.

Now, I do not mean to suggest that I would rather have one individual be valued over the rest - I feel quite differently. Instead of seeing humans as fields, I see them as many blades of grass. You can either group them up to devalue the individual (which is reliant on all of those individuals to exist, itself), or you can see them as many individuals that are each different, and which each have value. Many eschew the concept of the individual seeing it as counterproductive to the good of the whole, when really, it just takes more effort, and they don't want to put in that effort. Certainly, it's true that not every individual human can get the precise treatment and level of attention they deserve, but that doesn't mean that they should be universally ignored in favor of 'grander schemes,' or some such.

Morality is not truly social, though it can have strong effects in society. Morals are internal, personal, and individual, whereas ethics are determined by society, and may be formed by the accumulation of more common morals (again, the individual is random, the masses are predictable.) Ethics frequently turn into law, and laws shape many of the boundaries of society. If anything, society owes everything to morals, yet is like a bastardisation and heavily morphed descendent of morality. As societies grow and change, and spring new societies, it gets more and more distanced and skewed away from the root morals. Nothing can truly be called amoral, unless and individual truly lacks a moral code (the most likely candidates for such a mind would be sociopaths, though even they can display some semblance of moral code.) Each individual has morals, and those morals may contradict another's morals - which is when one calls the other 'amoral.' Morals aren't truly good or bad, as in the end, good and bad are themselves blurry and even arbitrary. Good and bad are, instead, based somewhat more closely on ethics, which is societal, which can be averaged and given a baseline, which can be constrained by and influence laws, and which can be enforced by the masses based on a shared idea (though, with the individual, it can be contradicted and questioned, as the individual is unpredictable.) Predictable, when referring to an individual, rather means 'close or similar to the average.' Some people do simply go very in line with the average of the masses, which makes them more predictable, despite the fact that their capability of employing free will can still bring about a sudden and unpredictable nature at any given point. For instance, it's been shown that virtually anyone and everyone can be driven to murder in the right circumstances, no matter how 'predictable' or 'good' they are.

What irks me most about society is when it's given incredible weight over any other factor. Society and social constructs should never trump the individual and the unique mind, and yet they frequently do, even if we don't realise it. When someone says that they don't vote during elections because their one tiny vote won't make a difference, they're right to some extent, but when you consider the accumulation of such 'tiny votes,' if many, many more individuals thought the same way, then the results of a vote could be drastically swayed in a different direction. Every vote does and doesn't count, in that no one vote matters as long as there are many, many more, but to make that larger number, you must have an accumulation of individual votes. The individual should never so easily be discounted.

Tuesday, August 6, 2013

It Felt Good to Work

The other day, I went a little manic - in the actual, clinical sense. Was actually manic the day I went to see my therapist, so I spewed a whole lot of logorrhœa (not as gross as it sounds), and hopefully she got to take something from it, such as a sample of what my hypomania can look like. Also, being nowhere near as inhibited as I normally am, a lot of personal thoughts and feelings came out (not mushy stuff - I was manic! Not even sure I'm capable of mushy when manic.) This lead to some useful information gathering for both her and me. She even suggested that I may want to try to harness the powers of mania to become more sociable and go outside more. Seeing as how I essentially went outside three times the three weeks before Tuesday, and each of those instances was to see my therapist, one could argue that I don't get out of the house enough. But guess what! I've actually talked to strangers! the past few days! I normally avoid that like the Black Death.

Another wonderful thing about the mania spectrum... pain inhibition! So I'm less socially inhibited, but have more pain inhibition (likely do to a rush of norepinephrine, dopamine, adrenaline, and a number of other neurochemicals and hormones that occur in larger quantities during manic-spectrum episodes.) So... I've actually cleaned a bit around the house, put away dishes, and helped dig up gas- and oil-soiled dirt, gravel, and sand in our driveway (to replace with litter, good soil, and new gravel.) Ever tried digging up a gravel/sand mixture that's been saturated in gasoline and baked in the sun? Almost turns into makeshift cement! Albeit makeshift cement with awful tensile strength, and pretty mediocre compressive strength... It could take quite a few blows from the sharp edge of the shovel and took some brute force to dig into (though, once you got a whole, you could shove the shovel (unintentional play on words) underneath the layer of gasoline saturated sand/gravel and upheave it. Something like a 100+ pounds of earth and stone removed, and dozens more of new earth, rock, and litter added, there were a few muscle fibres used here and there. My family hasn't seen me work that much... for probably at least a few years. I don't think that I've even held a shovel-shovel (as opposed to a snow shovel) in three or four. Did shovel some snow here and there last winter or the winter before that. Still, manual labor has not been on the list of things I've done for quite a while. Fibromyalgia can be a bit of a female dog, that way... because we all know how female dogs are! Actually, I don't really... Quite clueless on the comparison.

I also worked out a little, have been working on neck stretches and strengthening for my awful, screwed up neck, and been doing yoga a bit more regularly (think you only need to do it about 3 days out of the week, anyhow.) So, all that, and my body is just about killing me, now. I have visible, easy to feel knots in my muscles riddling my back, my arms, as well as my legs. Pretty beat up, seeing as how using this body of mine for labor is like trying to get a rusty manual lawn mower from the 50s to cut a field of wild grass. Luckily, I wasn't alone in digging up and refilling the driveway, as I would've been utterly physically incapable of certain tasks. Also funny to watch the tallest, strongest man helping out use the smallest shovel (heigh-ho, heigh-ho...) At least he wasn't using the little garden shovel that I don't really deem a shovel - more like an over-sized, pointy spoon. However, I did end up using it to break up some last bits of earth, as it is the best tool when you need to both pierce and scoop just small quantities.

But despite my body feeling like it tumbled down a mountain side like the baby in Kung-Pow www.youtube.com/watch?v=kAX_4x… (not good quality), it was nice to actually be able to both mentally and physically go outside and do something productive, and actually socialising? I haven't felt like I could do any of that in way too long... And then, spontaneously, I got a second wind. Sadly, that second wind does seem to be withering a bit. Oh, well. Enjoy it while it lasts, I suppose. Hopefully it'll come around again when I actually have the opportunity to socialise more.

Wednesday, June 26, 2013

Blind Spots

Everyone has blind spots, ignorance, naïveté, flaws. There isn't a single person on the earth who is truly and fully immune to such things, though some do seem more prone, and others resistant. But the fact is that there is no perfect individual in existence. And where I believe most people fail the greatest is in their blind spots. Even the smartest, wisest, most perceptive individual has a blind spot here and there. They may be small, but they're there, and when something falls within that blind spot, it can have disastrous results. I must admit that I have some pretty significantly large blind spots in a number of areas. Unlike with a car, you can't just trade in your very being for a new one. You can't just miraculously remove all of your blind spots. Just like with a car, however, you can make adjustments, and learn techniques, for avoiding many of the potential detrimental effects your blind spots can have. Sadly, I also must admit that I fail horribly in that area as well. What can I say? - I look but I don't see. I search but I don't find. This largely applies to my relations to... er... the rest of humanity. I'm somewhat of a sponge for academia, and yet so terribly clueless with things in the natural world.

For me, academics - particularly those which I control, and which are not dictated by some sort of institution or other individuals - is like a portal into another world. It's a world where logic lies in an endless ocean of abstraction. Clean lines and solid colors can live harmoniously alongside blurred and indefinable shapes and cornucopias of intermingling colors. The accumulation of knowledge flows eternally through and with the riptides of abstraction, forming thoughts, ideas, rationales, concepts, and a myriad found only in the mind and soul, but reflected in the world, if not reflecting the world. I can calm down and focus in the meadow of numbers and mathematics, or become exhilarated in the deep libraries of records. Records can be of all things, meaningful and seemingly meaningless, often merely and so greatly a reflection of the recorder. And while I can get lost in this wonderful world of knowledge, quite benign to those around me, others exploit and darken this world. Knowledge can be a dangerous thing in the wrong hands. Even mathematics can be dangerous and powerful. Most academics have relatively benign, if not beneficent, intents, but time and time again their work and abilities are exploited, and my world of solitude poisoned.

But no matter how much knowledge I accumulate, my life never becomes more fulfilling. It's like having enormous wealth with nothing to spend it on, or copious amounts of food that you're unable to eat. It's there, craving a use and a purpose, yet such uses are lost on me. No amount of literature could ever truly teach me how to live. I cannot read my way into a cure for my social awkwardness and anxiety, nor my variable moods, nor my difficulty with interpersonal relationships, nor my inability to lead a truly productive life. No amount of words and carefully researched and studied essays and articles could ever teach me wisdom. Without wisdom, knowledge is useless, and if knowledge cannot bring about wisdom, what does? Simple: experience. Life experiences, spiritual cultivation, faith - of most all sorts, and... failure. In three particular years of my life, I gained perhaps a decade's worth of life experience, I practice spiritual cultivation most every day, and I have faith in a number of things - even if it wavers from time to time. But, of all of these, I think that the most important is failure. I believe that nothing teaches wisdom greater than experiencing failure. Even then, some just don't have what it takes to gain... much of anything from their failures, while others may not have had the chance.

While failure is a very vague, and poorly defined, event for most people, it can often be defined by the very individual who experiences it in some way. If nothing else, it is simply defined as failure. Knowing that you have failed, with or without an actual distinct definition, and accepting that failure is the greatest step one can take to gain wisdom. So... why have I failed so miserably at experiencing failure? I don't expose myself to it - or rather, I avoid it at all costs. How do I do this? I do nothing. How can you fail when you leave nothing to fail at? If you don't even try to begin something, how can you lose at it? It's like standing on the sidelines of a race, right? You can't possibly lose (or win) if you don't even participate.... Or so my rationale goes. Funny thing is that it's a rationale with little rationality.

I've been called wise, an old soul, intelligent, bright, and so on and so forth. I've abhorred such compliments for such a long time with little explanation as to why. Well, I've come to believe in more recent years that my abhorrence was the result of being aware of my many, large blind spots. Perhaps in the back of my mind I reasoned with myself, "How can you be such things if you don't seem to have anything to show for it?" I often tried to convince myself that I only received such compliments because the other people didn't truly understand the nonsense that I spewed, and assumed it to be something smart. Looking back, that's quite an arrogant, lowly view I had of others, even if it was mostly just a delusion rooted in my own deep seated self-consciousness and low self-esteem. I not only often neglected - neglect - myself, but I also constantly bully and criticise myself. I dismiss or erroneously try to refute my own self worth. I see myself in relation to the rest of the universe and see a tiny, negligible speck that, in the grand scheme of things, is barely recognisable as existent. But the most painful part is that I am just so self-aware that, even when I am so hopelessly delusional, I always know deep down that I'm delusional, erroneous, paranoid, overly self-conscious, overly critical of myself, and so on. Knowing your flaws can be both one of the most excruciating things you could ever experience, as well as one of the most necessary things in all of your existence. Unlike most people who are hopelessly swallowed up by their flaws, I don't have a weak foundation with which my house is doomed to fail upon, but rather... I have an astonishingly strong foundation with a hopelessly poorly built house that's doomed to failure simply because it is. I have the foundation... now I just need to figure out how to build a better house.

Over 99% of the time, I lack anything near a bad intention, and yet probably over half the time, my blind spots cause structural weaknesses that can be outwardly perceived as bad intention. I suppose you could say that I simply lack finesse... Sure, I may have a way with words from time to time when it's written, but put me in front of another human, and one out of every two times, I'm quite certain I will slip up and cause some horribly unnecessary, and totally avoidable, backlash. It can cause the perception that, no matter what I do, it will likely end in failure... Even my avoidance of failure is fundamentally a failure in and of itself. But perhaps the failure to fail is an inadequate source to produce true wisdom. Or perhaps I am more consciously aware than subconsciously. Honestly, the subconscious mind - in my experiences - is much more influential for learning. Most people say that their failures lie in the cognitive difficulty of turning subconscious thought into conscious thought, but it's a bit muddled there. If your subconscious teaches you a bad thing, and you are not consciously aware of it, then you cannot hope to change that negative thing. However, if you are conscious of something, but it's not nestled deeply into your subconscious mind, then you cannot possibly hope to learn it. The subconscious mind teaches, but the conscious mind sheds light on what is to be taught, and acts as a doorway. And, now that I think of it, I am currently undergoing the very processes described above, as I try to reprogramme my mind to the very core, as well as teach it new, good things (by embedding the knowledge and wisdom into the subconscious mind via the conscious mind.) A harder feat than it sounds, and I think it already sounds quite difficult.

Blind spots... We all have them.

Friday, June 14, 2013

Essay of Ramblings: A Lone Nightshade

[Disclaimer: This is a 3,028 word essay of philosophical rambling.]


    I read article upon article, individual word after individual word, taking it all in like some mad supercomputer. I was almost subconsciously absorbing it while merely consciously knowing that it was absorbed. And as it become absorbed, images persistently produced in my mind of some sort of liquid, slimy, grey creature made out of not cells, or even a single cell, but the tar and muck and grime that it squirmed in. It was almost horrifying, and yet so stunningly captivating. It moaned without a sound, the melting expressions evident yet constantly morphing and sliding away. It was the culmination of centuries, millennia, of strife and bickering, of suffering and pain, of ennui and anger. It was the culmination of the legacy humans would most likely leave behind, masking all the greatness. It was disappointment.
    Certainly, it is easier to make judgments and speculations from atop the hill, while looking down upon the battle from afar. Certainly. And I believe it difficult to say whether it is more honorable to make such speculations and judgments at such a vantage point, than to make judgements and actions while in the thick of it. Hindsight may be 20/20, as the saying goes, but why is it time and time again that mistakes are merely pointed out, but seldom, if ever, learned from? Another adage goes that history repeats itself, which, while not conflicting with 'hindsight is 20/20,' certainly suggests that there is some inevitable, yet logically avoidable error in human judgment as a whole. And a few may learn from the mistakes, and may in fact try to create change and enlightenment, or simply avoid recreating the mistakes of the past themselves, but humanity as a whole has some fundamental flaw.
    That moaning and groaning, slime-borne, mute creature of humanly Hell personified (which is quite redundant, yet seemingly necessary), in my mind, was spawned of the spats back and forth between people of such similar minds fighting over one of many details. "It is a very important, central, pivotal detail," one might say, but it doesn't change the fact that the bickering and fighting and, many a time, slaughtering was beyond unnecessary. How many souls faded from the early by the hands of another over a detail? Out of thousands of various ideals, beliefs, and concepts, one single idea could be different, and wars might be waged over it. Mental illness does not lead to outrageous reactions, to fighting and slaughter, to death and decay, to evil and darkness... Some... core, fundamental quality, nature, or susceptibility in humanity does. Some attribute it to demons or otherworldly evil spirits, some to nothing more than humans, some to free will, some to fallacies. A combination of all such things, or perhaps merely some, may be the root cause. But then I think about those individuals who best this susceptibility, this weakness, this flaw, and I wonder, 'If they can do it, why doesn't everyone?' Free will. A double-edged sword.
    Free will is an extraordinarily frequent theme in many philosophies and religions. What is free will? It is the idea that each human can act in whatever way they so choose. This certainly does not mean that they can achieve any goal that they wish, necessarily, or that things won't stop them from either committing to that action, or succeeding in carrying out the action. Surely, if a man with a knife from a hundred feet away charges at a man with a gun, there is little doubt that the man with the knife will probably be shot and possibly die before stabbing or slicing the man with the gun. But the choice to pursue the action of attempting to attack the man with the gun was completely the knife-wielding man's own, made of his own free will. He may not succeed, it may be futile and self-destructive, but it was his own choice. Many feel trapped or chained, while forgetting that, inevitably, no external restriction can truly take away their free will. They can try to get out of the chains, out of their prison, whether or not they will succeed.
    Time and time again, man is witness to man's demonstration of free will where free will may even seem unlikely. A convict tunnelling his way out of prison, a militia thrusting themselves at their enemy in certain doom, a pilot travelling some hundreds of miles across vast, isolated mountains from his crashed plain in hopes of finding rescue. In the face of hopelessness, man either breaks from delusions of having no options, no cards left to play, or they embrace their free will and take actions, however unlikely the goal behind that action is. And free will is obviously, and not-so-judiciously or minimalistically, utilised in lesser matters that may very well escalate to vastly consuming matters. Everyone has opinions, beliefs, thoughts, ideas, perceptions, views, and so on, but free will is the catalyst behind acting upon those things. Often, they are thought to be our identity, or they are argued (perhaps even with some ferocity), that it is not our identity when others believe it is. And whether or not it is our identity is irrelevant to me, at this time, if nothing else. The fact is that everyone with a conscious mind has them, and often enough, individuals take actions in regards to them.
    And this is not to say that one should or should not take actions fuelled by beliefs and whatnot, some beliefs even dictating that one should take action regarding the vary belief that is dictated. I am not about to argue for or against any personal beliefs, and dogmas or philosophies, any major concept in human history. I myself have never utterly agreed or meshed with any one set of beliefs, abstractions, et al., nor have I utterly disagreed with many, or most, that I have come across. An image comes to mind of the modern sniper, proficient in becoming one with his environs, clad in a ghillie suit, crawling slowly and steadily, while occasionally attaching and assimilating foliage from his surroundings into his ghillie suit. By taking the actual flora and making it a part of his camouflage, his is able to seamlessly blend and become one with the nature around him. Now, I'm not meaning to imply that I simply take fragments of everyone's ideas and beliefs, assimilate them with my own, and then blend in with what of humanity surrounds me. While I may be more of an observer than an agent, while I may prefer to generally stay back than jump up front, while I generally avoid attention than strive and seek it, while I'm generally introverted and not extroverted... I do not simply assimilate to blend in. Rather, most who have met me find it quite hard to imagine me 'blending in.' While I may not pop out to the masses, I am also starkly different from those who surround me (sometimes creating the very strife, the avoidable mistakes that I've been describing, wrought from incongruent views and thoughts, or misconceptions.)
    If I were to try to describe myself in relation to my surroundings, to the world around me, while trying to avoid self-centric, narcissistic, self-praising, or any other such or similar adjectives, words, I would say that I am like a lone nightshade in a field of lilies, dandelions, roses, petunias, violets, and most any other flower imaginable, sans any other nightshades. Out of a sea of flowers, some similar, many different, some grotesque or appalling, others wondrous and enchanting, I am the lone nightshade. So, while none or few of the other flowers necessarily blend in, or are completely unique, while there is a myriad of colors, shapes, and sizes, I still remain the lone nightshade. Perhaps there is a lone lotus, as well, who may or may not stand out, who may or may not look out of place, but that does not change that I am a lone nightshade. And yet, do you know what is interesting? I repeatedly point out what is different about me, as many people do about themselves, or their beliefs, or whatever else goes on in their head. People want to be different somehow, to stand out, or they want to point out the contrast in an attempt to make others assimilate to them. But I don't just want to point out my differences in this metaphor. You see, everything I described was a flower. Everything I described was flora. Everything I described took sunlight and converted it into sugars and other usable resources through photosynthesis. Everything I described has relatively similar genetic material and structures. And something interesting is that I can list more similarities than differences about my metaphor of being a lone type of flower in a field of other flowers, and yet any two humans are more similar to one another than any of the various flowers in the field. Sans organisms that utilise asexual reproduction, humans are perhaps some of the most genetically similar creatures.
    Race amongst humans doesn't exist, yet we wage war over it. For all of the seemingly radical ideas that come from the many human minds out there, and throughout the millennia, there really isn't a whole lot of true uniqueness, novelty, or extreme in any one idea, relative to the ideas of many others now and past. In away, ideas are simply one more brick, one more plank of wood, building upon previous ideas, and creating a singular structure. What that structure is or will be... I could never tell you. I have not created a single original thought in my life, but I certainly have taken many thoughts and ideas from others, I have learned from experience, from history, from texts and others, I have accumulated knowledge and wisdom, and the very specific combination of those non-unique thoughts and ideas is what is unique. No one has experienced exactly what I have, no one has learned the exact combination of things I have, no one has thought the exact lifelong string of thoughts that I have. It is not any one thing that makes anything or anyone unique. No atom, no molecule, no organelle, no cell, no organ, no gene is truly unique, and yet every individual ever born to the world is unique through their individual wholeness.
    With so little, yet so much, uniqueness, it becomes harder and harder to grasp what we fight about with one another. It becomes harder to even comprehend war, strife, and struggles between other human beings. Sure, if some sci-fi movie came true where some previously unknown alien race chooses our very own planet to exterminate of all native species, it would make perfect sense to war against them. There are also many movies, stories, games, and even religions centred around 'battling demons' or 'destroying evil.' It dehumanises these concepts, and makes them something totally different. And yet, humans see these things, compare one remotely similar quality to another human being, and decide, "Well, you must be evil, so you must die!" What kind of rationale is that? Or the idea of killing all who don't believe in your faith? Say someone - 'Person A' - believes that someone else - 'Person B' - is going to Hell because Person B believes something different, even if only infinitesimally different, does that give Person A any - ANY - right to kill or harm Person B? If Person B suddenly went on a murderous rampage, then sure, if you can't detain and/or get them under control, Person B probably needs to die. They did, after all, decide to go on a murderous rampage. But if Person B wasn't causing significant harm to the people and world around them, especially if Person B wasn't causing any more harm than Person A, in what way could Person A ever have the right to kill Person B because a thought in their head is different?
    The amalgam of all negative emotions, of all darkness and - perhaps - evil, of all the wrongs in the world and all of the lives cut down unjustly... in my mind creates this screaming, moaning, groaning, crying, voiceless slime that constantly melts and slops and reforms and morphs... It gets bigger and bigger and bigger until it seems impossible to see anything else. How can one not see the accumulation of such torment and gloom over the entire course of human existence?
     
    And yet, life would not be life without it. Why? I can't answer. I don't have the answer. No one does. But, even then, I accept it, however reluctantly. Time is an illusion, or so appears to be the more likely of two unknowable things in my mind. Everything has happened, and yet, at this moment, we have not experienced it all. We are finite, infinite, singular and numerous, like a point that is a line, or a line that is a point. A line, a ray, a segment... Time is all at once. Or so goes the Einsteinian belief.
    I have faith, beliefs, opinions, ideas, thoughts, and yet accept many of the philosophies of the so-called 'Sceptics,' those who followed philosophical scepticism. But I do not simply reject what I don't know; I just know that I don't know anything with utter certainty. Certainty seems to be a very human concept, anyway. All words are human concepts. And certainty does contradict faith, and so how can one have faith with utmost certainty? Thusly, why would a philosophical sceptic reject faith if faith requires uncertainty - the inability to know? If such a sceptic were to every do anything in their lives, to simply not be dead, would they not have to have faith that whatever they do will result in something that they intended, whether or not it does? We invented words like certainty, absolute, and definite, and yet we cannot say with certainty that there is certainty? It is merely an estimated meaning of an estimated thought. But language is constantly used to convey logic, when language is at its very core not logical, but abstract. Creating a logical language, as many have tried to do, is then a functional contradiction. And then it's hard to understand the truest meaning of contradiction, when contradictions often combine to create the world as we know it.
    I know much, and yet I know essentially nothing, conceptually. Reality is a matter of perspective, as is existence, as are beliefs and experiences, and so on. Your brain reacts the same to a dream as to real-life stimuli. Randomly firing neurons can create hallucinations that are no different from reality aside from the fact that no one else can corroborate it happens, and yet we humans often experience things that others can't corroborate that, as far as we can possibly know, were in fact real sensations. But why is one sensation real and another not? We have a name for what is apparently unreal, a hallucination, and we can often explain its existence. So these hallucinations that are apparently not real are therefore a real phenomenon.
    These mind benders that we often get caught up on... They truly prove how little we do and can know. And yet, if we can't know, how can we prove it? Contradictions, paradoxes. And we get caught up on something like skin pigmentation, bone structure...? If we were all blind, I doubt skin color would've ever even been conceptualised. If we were blind and couldn't feel, I doubt that bone structure would've been thought of. Take away the senses, where we get our information, then we take away reality. And if dreams are processed the same as 'reality,' then at any time, we could be in a dream and think it was reality. Oh, so rarely does an individual truly realise they're in a dream before they wake up. And heard of dreams within a dream? There have even been ideas that dreams are our souls essentially experiencing another life, making the life we are 'awake' in, the equivalent to a dream in the other life, or what we call a 'dream.' And some people lose touch with reality to the point of just wishing to wake up from the dream, while they are already awake. Some think that you can wake up through suicide, but for all we know, that person just killed themselves and that's the end of that. But the idea that if you die in a dream, then you die in real life, means that trying to wake up by killing yourself doesn't wake you up, but simply kills you no matter if you were actually dreaming or not.
    The fickleness of reality, of thoughts, ideas... of everything. Makes bickering between humans, even wars, seem so... so... idiotic. And yet the inevitability of idiocy, of the bickering, of the wars, makes the bickering and the wars necessary. If one tries to destroy a people, in order to avoid that destruction, one must destroy the destroyer. It was done in World War II, the Allies versus the Axis. Hitler wished to destroy peoples, to dominate, to dictate, and so it created the necessity of warring against him. Conflict is always unnecessary before the conflict, but almost always necessary after. As long as there are initiators, there will be people trying to end what they initiated, for better or worse.
     
    I just want to live my life... I just want to... make my strife and struggles, my empathy and compassion, the best parts of me in the worst, mean something. And everyone wants to mean something, somehow. Free will... The double-edged sword. Or perhaps more like a rose... with so many thorns. If you can manage to enjoy the rose without getting pricked by its thorns, it'll have some benefit. But if you aren't careful, if you don't handle the rose correctly, you most certainly will get pricked, and if you continue to misuse it, continue to handle it correctly, you just might get entangled in the bush like a bunch of barbed wire. Such a beautiful, delicate thing... with such harmful potential.
    Free will...

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

A Bolt Loose, or a Wire Frayed

I wake up in darkness. I think to myself, "I fell asleep well enough before noon; why's it so dark?" I check my phone beside my bed to see what time it is. 22:16. How'd it get that late? I want to get up, but I struggle. I feel paralysed and my body just wants to lull me back to sleep, but my restless mind keeps me... somewhat awake. I think. Think about all sorts of trivial things, and I think about why I can't get up, why it's so dark, why I slept so long... Why? Finally, I muster up the willpower to reach for my phone again. 22:45. I breathe deeply, somewhat like a sigh, but mostly just to get oxygen to my brain. After more paralysis, more cyclical thoughts, more mental agitation, I finally build up the willpower to sit up. I reach for my phone again. 23:01. Okay, time to get out of bed. Finally, I slide out of my bed, seeming as though I hadn't used any of my limbs in decades, like I had been in a coma, and I walk out. The hallway is mostly dark, but some light shines down from the stairway to the main floor.

I begin to walk up the stairs, and my eyes strain painfully to adjust to the difference in lighting. After a few moments of pain, my eyes are adjusted. By the time I get up the stairs, I suddenly get this... wellspring of energy. I start fast-walking throughout the house, doing little things that suddenly pop into my mind. I need to get that blanket and those pillows. I forgot the water bottle. I need a tissue. I want some bubble gum. How about some TV? Oh, gotta take my pills, first. Is it really Tuesday? I'll wait until my mom gets back to ask her what day it is. I'll get back to TV. Oh, how about I pet the cat? I'll return to the TV, again. That spanned about five minutes. I literally walked to opposite ends of the house repeatedly doing miniscule, almost purposeless things. I would get something from one side of the house, then forget that I wanted to do something on the other side of the house. I would then remember I wanted to get something from another corner of the house. Up, down, side to side... My heart was racing, my head was light, I felt like a feather.

After hours of watching television, I eat, I reply to messages online, et cetera, et cetera. 06:59. The time right now. 9 hours seemed like thirty minutes. But I didn't lose time; I was fully aware of everything, if not hyper-aware. My mind was flying the entire time, the gears turning so fast that it seemed like they were being stripped and losing grip, yet rotating nonetheless, even if they didn't accomplish anything by their rotations. I analysed, I pondered, and I thought deeply. I was emotionally invested even in things that didn't have a whole lot of emotion in the first place. My mind, my body, my soul were being swayed to the current of whatever was around me. I wasn't so much defined by what happened within me, but rather by what happened around me. I was clear and transparent, allowing crystal clarity into my surroundings. If anything, I was a conduit. I channelled my surroundings, my influences, and my stressors. I may have often channelled it silently, but it was channelled, nonetheless.

Now my head feels like it's wearing a stone hat. Heavy on my spine, somehow cutting off circulation to my cranium, perhaps even my brain. My eyes are heavy and burn, my heart pumps slowly and silently, my breath is fairly shallow. Where is that energy? Will I fall asleep and then wake up temporarily paralysed again? When will I wake up, or go to sleep, for that matter. I feel like something is wrong with my entire nervous system, but I have no idea what. It feels... hmm... compressed. Other times, it feels frazzled and twisted. And yet other times it feels overcharged. Or even cut off. But at no time does it feel... right. It's off, somehow, but I don't know why or what is causing it. Is it fibromyalgia? Bipolar? Anxiety? Those are my big three. Fibromyalgia seems like the most likely candidate. Dysautonomia - the dysfunction of the autonomic nervous system. The things that are supposed to run more or less without the necessity of thought or effort. You don't especially have to think about digesting your food or breathing, or pumping your own heart. These things, for the most part, typically work on their own. Certainly, some things you can influence. You can purposely control your breathing, but if you don't do it purposefully, it usually works anyway. Anxious thoughts can certainly affect all of your 'autonomic' functions, like heart rate, breathing, and - yes - even digestion. Fibromyalgia can cause or even be the partial or whole result of some form of dysautonomia. This path... feels right. I think it's this, I think dysautonomia is causing these problems, but I don't know why. I have no real connections I can tie.

A coma sounds very good right now. Not have to think about all of these things, not have to worry about staying up too long, or possibly getting nagged at for sleeping too long, either. I mean, really, who nags at a coma patient for sleeping too long? Usually the people are just happy when they finally wake up! It would be interesting to see what the doctors could discover while I was in a coma... I can't imagine what may be picked up in an MRI or CT. If someone saw what was really going on in my brain and nervous system... I wonder if I would get answers, or just more questions. Normally, I run into dead ends or more questions, usually unable to find any definitive answers. I would love to just once find answers.


A lot of frayed wires and loose bolts in this one.